I am a mother. I hold a very important role, I live for a very noble purpose. I am revered, I am looked up to, I am celebrated and I am worshiped. International Mother’s Day is around the corner. The gifts are on the shelf at every big and small, real and virtual shop. Mothers are thinking about what they want, and the family is thinking about what to give to the mom to make her feel special. Motherhood for me is my highest calling. Being a mother is my deepest blessing and to have my little one as my daughter is my biggest achievement. My daughter is only 3.5 years old, but on this Mother’s Day, I have made a list of 10 promises to her for when she will not be so little anymore.
This mother’s day, I want to remind myself and the mothers who are reading this, why we are cherished and celebrated and worshiped even. We are all good moms, every day of the week but are we also the Moms we wanted our Mother to be, especially when we let ourselves down?
Have a read of the 10 promises or rather note to self to my future self and do leave your comments for me.
When you will lie to my face and get caught
when you will realize that the friends you trust most are the ones who deserve it the least
When you will do things behind my back that you know I don’t approve off.
when you will score, less in your exams not because you are not smart but because you are distracted.
When you will break someone’s heart or when you will come home with a broken heart.
When your best friend will ditch you and the bullies will laugh on your face and spread rumor behind your back
When you will puff your first cigarette just to check what the Fk it is or when you will yell at someone with an F-word,
When your Dad will walk restlessly in the living room, looking at his watch, waiting for you to arrive.
I promise you this my little one,
- I will love you.I will love you, even when you will find it hard to love yourself.
- I will give you a hug when you will feel not deserving of it.
- I will look you in the eye and tell you why you fell.. But I will also give you my hand to hold and stand up again.
- I will mutter it under my breath, but I will not say it out loud, that, “I told you so”
- I will discuss with you the problems, but I will sit with you over coffee and hot chocolate to help you find a solution.
- I will talk to you and not talk down to you
- Most importantly, I will listen to you. Listen to you with my heart and not just my ears.
- I will let you know that I may be upset with you, even a tad bit disappointed, but I am not judging you for the choice you made and most importantly, I trust you. I have got you. No matter what!
- I have faith in the nice person that you are underneath all the experimentation, mean girl act or cool pretense.
- I will not act as ‘holier than thou’ because well who am I kidding here! But I will try to be an accepting, forgiving, understanding and a reasonable parent that I can be, after all, I do remember what I needed from my parents when I screwed up at your age.
My darling, I cannot save you from failures, heartaches, heartbreaks, follies, and mistakes. I cannot predict your future and I sure cannot decide who you should fall in love with or who you will end up marrying. But I guarantee you this, all your actions will be based on the choices you will make. All your choices will have consequences. And whatever you go through, I will go through it with you. As your mother, as your friend, as your guardian angel, as your guide.
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I promise you that I am not cutting this invisible umbilical cord that connects me to you. And no matter what you do, or where you will go, and how much shit hits the roof. Together, we will deal with it, make it better and write a happy story. You and me.
I hope you enjoyed reading my little article on the Mothers Day. As a blogger and a writer, I often get to meet some amazing mommy bloggers. I often read their blogs and I love a lot of them so much. I wish I could put my feelings into words like some of them. I wish I was as learned and as intelligent a mom like some of them
It is my endeavor to try and get you my viewers the best of the articles and essays, so you could enjoy them and benefit from them, as much as I do. I have compiled a list of my favorite blogs, from some of my favorite bloggers.
Do read them and do tell me if you liked their articles & opinion.
- Amruta Kshemkalyani ‘s article about imparting the value of sustainable lifestyle to your child. Click to read here
- Zeyna Sanjania’s 10 learnings from their first year of motherhood. Click to read here
- Priyanka Wade’ s refreshing observation on 6 types of kids you see at drop-offs. Click to read here.
- Sarah Khan’s compilation of things you must never say to a Mom. Like never, ever, ever. Seriously! Click to read here
- Khushboo Snj has very categorically listed some complaints to her daughter in the form of very relatable confessions. Click to read here
- Kinshoo Agrawal’s little essay on teaching kindness to kids. Click to read here.
- Ridha Fazlin’s pregnancy and birth story. Click to read here
- Tarana Khan Siddiqi’s heart touching view on why even the kids need a village. Click to read here
- Clementina Kongslund’s blog really resonated me as I was a tomboy kid while my daughter is a girly girl. Click to read her blog here
- Bilna Sandeep’s article on motherhood for a working mom is so heartfelt. Click to read it here
- Tabinda Nabil’s rhythmic prose writing on Inhale & exhale. It stays hours after reading it. Click to read here
- Lety Kachidza’s very intelligent analogy using Disney characters as backgrounds to define our digital age kids. Click to read here.
Thank you, ladies, for allowing me to share your blogs with my readers. You truly are amazing. I hope we all mom well, and write well, and be the kind of person we want our kids to be.
These are such sweet and important words. Our children need to know they are loved no matter what. It sounds like your children are fortunate to have a mother that plans to do just that.
Such wise words. Every mother should note them and follow them, even though I know that sometimes it is easier said than done.
Thank you so much
Loved reading the blog! It’s so relatable. Thanks for sharing some of the other lovely blogs from other mums! Will surely read those too.
Oh my gosh this is so beautiful <3 You’re little one will read this post one day and I hope it makes her heart so happy 🙂
What a beautiful post and promises. I love the way you have compiled it all. No matter what situations and circumstances, until I am there, my kids will always be precious and cared for.
These are so precious! Motherhood is such a sacred calling and I admire your resolve and motivation to carry it on.
Happy Mother’s Day, sweet mama! These are words from the heart and I appreciate you sharing them here. Your soul agreement with your child is a blessed journey and I know your legacy and relationship will always bloom. 🌺 Namaste 🙏🏼 💕 Xo, Evelyn, PathofPresence.com 🦋
I love this post – so emotional and raw. And beautifully written too 🙂 x
I wish everyday was mothers day we work so hard and we dont get enough recognition for what we do. I hope you had a great mothers day
I agree. Thank you
Aww this is such a lovely post full of beautiful and kind words for your child to remember always! You are such a amazing mama!!
Thanks so much
This is so beautiful! I love this. These promises made me tear up a little bit :’)
Aww.. Thank you
This is so sweet. Mothers are such amazing people, thee is no love like a mother love in the world. Your daughter is very lucky to have a mother who cares for her so much.
Thanks so much. I am lucky to have her too
This is a lovely post. All we can do as parents is try our best and hope it is enough. I am sure you are a wonderful mother.
Thanks so much
Such a lovely, heartwarming post! And I agree – our children will always have our back, no matter what. 🙂
I hope so too
I’m not a mother, but even I found these promises super sweet and touching. Your kids are so lucky to have you!
this is beautiful and endearing. makes me anxious to be a mother one day!
Hahaha.. It’s beautiful if you want it
Very beautifully written. A mother’s love is unconditionally and no one can break that bond.
So beautiful. Being a mother is so rewarding and I think setting the expectation and showing them the right things will always matter
True. I agree
What great promises. I agree that sometimes children need a hug even when it’s not needed.
Thanks so much
Very sweet post to read. As my kids get older, I sometimes find myself in the shoes of my parents, saying things I thought I’d never say but now I understand why my parents were coming from.
Beautiful words. No matter what happens or what decision our children make, they will always have our love
Nice promises, your daughter is lucky to have you as her mother. It is very important to have a bond of trust, trust that a daughter should feel free to open her heart to her mom. If you have this bond of trust atleast you will know what is going on in her life. I wish no mother should experience but as one cannot rule out, there may be a situation when you do not agree with the decision your son or daughter takes. Here comes the difficult part as a mother, as a well wisher. May be you understand and predict that decision your child took is not good, being experienced you may know that this shall lead to a heartbreak but what you will do? Child is sharing with you, not taking your permission, just informing you and expect your support. Note that at that point of time they will not listen to your advise, what will you do? Will allow your child to go and experience the outcome or will advise and breach that trust? I am not expecting any answer from anyone, actually there is no answer and there is no right and wrong. We have many choices and alternatives and nothing is perfect and nothing is foolproof. Life is an experience and a learning. So keep going and sharing. All the best to all the moms
The best thing we can do as mothers is to always be there, no matter what. And you’ve captured that so well in your post!
Thank you Tarana. Really appreciate a compliment from you. Thanks for reading.
Beautiful! I liked your writing, it’s not very easy to write your inner feelings about your child!
True. I actually wrote it for my journal. But then, I shared it thinking maybe other moms need to read it too.
That is the most heartbreaking thing about being a mom, not being able to save your kids from hurt caused by others 🙁
You got me teared up! Beautiful!
Awww.. Thanks hun. It means a lot that it touched you. I teared up too while writing it 😘
All we can do is try 🙂 It’s challenging being a mom (at least it is for me). I make promises, then fail, and have to start all over. But, that’s life, right?
You are right. But setting an intention is important. Time will tell how I succeed in keeping these promises