Do you feel the shift? Are you losing love & trust for people you first thought were your friends? Don’t fret. Don’t pout. Hug yourself, because chances are you are excelling in life and that’s giving your naysayers nightmares & junk food cravings. 😂
I once read, if you find yourself depressed, sucked up by other people’s drama, look around. Chances are you are surrounded by arse holes. It’s true.
When you start doing well for yourself, when suddenly after living through darkness and sadness you wake up in pursuit of happiness and start looking happy, you also realise the shift of perception among people around you. Do not let their energy lull your shine. Please don’t get sucked up in their negative comments or insinuations.
This insecure lot that suddenly gets shaken by your success is just that, “Insecure“. Your happiness reminds them about how unhappy they are. Your positive outlook, annoys the shit out of them. Your weight loss, your new job, your cute baby and loving husband all looks unbelievable to them. It burns them, turn them green and so they spit venom behind your back, to everybody who will listen.
I once read Karan Johar’s interview. And he was talking about trolls on Twitter who hate him incessantly. This is losely what he said, “The first sign of success is that there will be at least a handful of people who will suddenly start hating you, for anything at all..It could be the way you look happy, then that would be called fake laughter. It could be the way you make friends, that would be tagged wannabe. It could be the way you dress or pout or even eat or talk. Basically, no one cares to talk about you if you are a no body.. So smile when you hear some nonsense spun about you.You have arrived! ”
Count the people who matter. Choose the ones who are genuinely happy for you. They cheer you up, on your face and behind your back. They also watch you grow and get inspired. These are your well wishers, friends & cheerleaders.
When in doubt, remember you are awesome. You don’t need validation or affirmation from outside. You carry on, rock & roll. Your friends will be dancing right beside you and the rest.. They don’t exist.
Thank you for writing this. Much needed. Ive seen friends disappearing in the last 3 months. I am confised if success is related to money or just merely being happy.
It’s different thing for different people. Only you can define what’s success for you. For me, it’s peace in my mind, happiness on my face & love in my heart. Everything else is bonus.
👏👏👏👏 I applaud you for keeping it so real! I totally agree!
Thanks so much
I have heard a saying very similar to that. And it\’s so true! I don\’t know what on Earth is wrong with people, but it\’s a fact that there will always be someone who wants to drag you down when you start coming up. Don\’t let them! Don\’t give them the satisfaction! Thank you for the reminder!
This is true, Negative people bring Negative Energy. If its a reoccurring thing then you may consider just cutting them out of your everyday life. I had to do this recently, its not easy but its for the best.
I know what you are saying. I even snip my Facebook friends list every December 😂
Gosh you are so right….. insecurities and jealousy is cancer to the bones. I feel some people (including myself at times) try to downplay their happiness so others won\’t feel bad.
You are right. I do that too.
Ha That made me laugh. Love the memes!
I think this resonates well with everything going on right now in the world. I think a lot of drama honestly stems from social media so if I am just not feeling great, I step away from Facebook and I end up feeling so much better!
Yup, I agree
This was great! It is something we all need to hear once in a while for sure.
This article really resonates with me and I am sure it would with a lot of people. I started filtering out many of the negative aspects of my life, certain friends and relatives that always seem to enjoy it when you are not your very best. So, I started to cut all that off and started feeling better inside.
Yup.. I did the same. I fee better!