Noticed that every second feed on your Facebook wall, every second advertisement on TV and every second article in your Newspaper today is about Valentine’s Day. I am sure Saint Valentine’s must be doing an emphatic face-palm up in the heaven with the kind of marketing and commercial attention a day on his name gathers in today’s world.
I am a romantic. I am as silly still in my 30s as I was when I was 13 when it comes to expressions of romance. I am not allergic to heart shaped balloon and “I love you”key chain no matter how cliché it gets. Hell, I even wrote a blog some days back about valentine’s day gift ideas for those who celebrate and believe in buying presents for their valentine, but what I am allergic to is this crazy propaganda of romance. This rush to look and feel like the biggest “Juliet” married to the biggest ” Romeo” on earth. This madness to outdo your last couple selfie with a better pout and more realistic kisses in the frame, with the perfect ambiance and of course, champagne & heart shape red velvet cake in company.
It doesn’t matter if you and your husband are not seeing eye to eye on anything lately, it doesn’t matter that your wife is the biggest nagger or your husband is an overgrown boy who won’t help you in any daily chore.. But since it’s valentine’s day, you MUST give each other gifts and pose for the photograph and eat red/ pink cupcakes and chocolate together. Why??
Love is like breathing air. We don’t have to complicate it and breathe air from the gold plated cylinder and click picture of the same and post it on every social media channel we are part of. We don’t have to profess our love or make good of a nasty situation because we are on a time line. 14th February is here, just like 13th February was and 15th February will be. If you really love your spouse, you can pick any day to gift him/ her a part of you. Things money can buy or experience that you created yourself. Love is and should not be dependent on the solo shoulder of valentine’s day.
My point is, if you and your partner are in love, it will show in your bedroom, bathroom, kitchen and Facebook wall 365 days a year. If your marriage has hit a troubled spot lately due to transitioning into parenthood, it’s OK to have differences and it takes work to rebuild the companionship that you once shared. Valentine’s day is a good day to show your love, but so are 364 other days of the year.
Fall in love with yourself first. Stop keeping a knife on your throat at all the time to behave, act, and showcase your actions to the world to follow the crowd or lines in the hallmark card.
Love your partner because it’s what your cells are asking you to do, not because it’s 14th of February. Do not let the pressure of having the most romantic day in the calendar ( because the hotel/ newspaper / and mall management says so) ruin the gentle love that day could hold. Go with the flow. Day, date and gifts can wait. The day you wanna pamper yourself and the love of your life, is a Valentine’s Day.
If you are not feeling like getting out of your pajamas, and wear a sexy outfit with red lipstick, because that’s what you must do on the valentine’s day, then please don’t give in. Enjoy your pantless, bra less day, eat leftover and cuddle with your spouse when the baby goes to sleep. This will not make for a pretty display pic on instagram but it will sure make a pretty loving time between you two.
Don’t be pressured to buy overrated and over expensive red roses, because that’s what the wife wants. Come home early, and offer to fold the laundry, or do the dishes, your wife will be ecstatic.
Point Is, it’s OK to not feel romantic on the 14th of Feb. It’s OK to come home to your partner minus flowers or jewelry and still receive a kiss and a smile. It’s OK to even have a tiff with your partner over something silly which you won’t remember next week, on 14th of Feb. It’s just another day of the year..
What matters is how much love you put in your relationship on a daily basis. On every single day of every single month of the year. What’s important is how much you love yourself, how secure are you in your life and in your heart to not depend on the facade and drama around you. What matters is the reason you want to celebrate or not celebrate a day poised as ” the day” to show love. Are you doing it because that’s what is expected of you or because that’s what come naturally to you..” Because love is like your beating heart. It beats. Regardless. Everyday. Valentine ‘s day or not. Till it stops. “